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Big Sister Advice: Answering All Your Questions Frankly & The Things I wish I Knew Before

07 NOVEMBER / 2023 / 11:06

As an online content creator, it's sometimes challenging to gauge how helpful or impactful your content is because your audience is behind screens. But whenever I receive messages of gratitude, it reaffirms that I'm on the right path and gives me the courage to keep going.


So, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for being with me on this journey by creating this Q&A session to celebrate our milestone together. While I received over 100 different questions, I've selected questions that were frequently asked or had similar content, so let's get started!


Question 1: What is the most valuable lesson you've learned in life that is never taught in school or university, and how does it contribute to success?


The most valuable lesson I've learned in life is that there are certain aspects of life that are rarely taught in school or university, but they play a crucial role in achieving success. While education provides knowledge and information, there are lessons about life that are learned through personal experiences and self-reflection. Understanding oneself, analysing personal reactions and emotions, and learning from life events are essential for personal growth and success.


One important lesson I've learned is the significance of taking action. While planning is necessary, it is equally important to act upon ideas and goals without unnecessary delay. This lesson has helped me overcome indecisiveness and has propelled me forward in achieving my aspirations. It is essential to turn wishes into actionable goals and take the necessary steps to accomplish them. Remember, without action, a wish remains just a wish.


Question 2: How do you define elegance? Is it more about fashion or style?


Elegance goes beyond fashion or style. While there may be certain symbols and stereotypes associated with elegance, it is not limited to a specific look or way of presenting oneself. Elegance can take various forms and is not confined to a single definition. I have observed that individuals can exude elegance regardless of their attire or appearance. It is more of a mental state and energy that one carries.


Elegance is about charisma, the way one handles oneself, and the overall impression they create. While grooming and style do play a role in the perception of elegance, true elegance stems from a combination of inner confidence, grace, and a certain air that sets a person apart. It is important to recognize that elegance is not solely determined by external factors but is also influenced by one's attitude, demeanour, and the way they carry themselves.


Question 3: How do you deal with insecure people who constantly try to bring you down and view everything you do as a competition?


Dealing with insecure individuals who constantly try to undermine your achievements can be challenging. However, I have learned that it is crucial to focus on my own path and not let their negativity affect me. In the past, I used to be protective of my ideas and would get hurt when someone tried to imitate or compete with me.


But as I grew more confident in my abilities, I realised that no one is a threat to me, and I am not a threat to anyone else. It is important to understand that the world is vast and diverse, and there is room for everyone to succeed in their own unique way. Rather than investing energy in trying to get along with jealous or insecure individuals, I channel my energy into creating content and pursuing my goals. I view their attempts to emulate me as a compliment, as it shows that I am a role model and an inspiration to them.


Question 4: Are you a perfectionist, and what personal tips do you have for achieving desired results without going overboard or undervaluing one's work?


I used to consider myself a perfectionist, but I have learned that the term "perfectionist" can have both positive and negative connotations. While striving for excellence and paying attention to detail is admirable, it is important not to let perfectionism hinder progress or devalue one's work.


In fact, I have started embracing the idea that "done is better than perfect." Taking action and completing tasks promptly often yields better results than obsessing over perfection but delaying the process. It is essential to recognize that in most life circumstances, prompt action and response are more important than striving for perfection. Additionally, I have learned not to use perfectionism as an excuse for procrastination or fear of failure. Instead, I focus on doing my best, even if it means stepping out of my comfort zone or taking on new roles.


Question 5: What is the biggest misconception people have about you?


Many people have misconceptions about me, especially those who only know me through online platforms. They imagine that I always look and act a certain way, 24/7, which is not true. I try to convey in my YouTube videos and Instagram that what you see online is not the full reality of who I am. Online personas are often different from how individuals behave in their personal lives, with family, friends, and when they are alone.


People often ask me how I maintain calmness and elegance all the time, but the misconception is that I am always like that. In reality, I have lazy days, moments of sadness, and times when I lack energy. Each day is different, and it's important to understand that the person behind the camera is just as human as anyone else, experiencing various emotions and situations.


Question 6: Could you talk about your childhood and the traumas that pushed you to succeed in life?


I had a very happy childhood, and I consider myself fortunate and blessed to have had loving and supportive parents. They were always there for me, nurturing my education and providing care and protection. While my family had certain strict expectations, they also had an open-mindedness that allowed me to pursue education abroad and have male friends, despite growing up in a Muslim country. I had a balanced upbringing, which contributed to my happiness.


As for traumas, I don't believe I experienced significant traumas inflicted by my parents. However, I do believe that certain circumstances shaped my drive for success. As a young person, I considered myself an "ugly duckling" and was not popular in school. Instead of seeking validation from others, I focused on self-improvement, education, and personal growth. This limitation, in a way, motivated me to work on myself and become the successful person I am today.


Question 7: What do you regret up until now in your life?


In the past, I used to dwell on regrets and think about missed opportunities. I would imagine different scenarios and how I could have made different choices. However, as I've grown older, I've come to realise that everything that happened in my life served a purpose. Sometimes, it takes years to understand the reasons behind certain events or experiences.


Regarding regrets, I've learned that taking risks and seizing opportunities is crucial. Waiting for opportunities to come knocking on your door is not a reliable strategy. If you don't make the most of the opportunities presented to you, your life won't change or progress in the direction you desire. So, while I don't have specific regrets, I've come to appreciate the importance of actively pursuing opportunities and embracing risks in life.